Sunday, February 12, 2012
Valentines Day and OCD: Part 2
10:01 pm est
In my last post, I mentioned ROCD in which the person questions whether their partner loves and is faithful
to them. On the flip side, many other ROCD sufferers doubt their own love for their partner. They set up tests
of their attraction and find endless minutiae wrong with their partner. Some wonder whether giving a Valentines gift
will be leading their partner on, and feel guilty they will eventually hurt or cheat on them. They break up repeatedly
only to reunite a few days later.
Many star-crossed lovers don't know their hot-and-cold behavior
might indeed be due to an anxiety disorder and the right kind of treatment could save their relationships. Many of my
clients have gone on to form happy marriages and families, and annually send photographs to me.
Wednesday, February 1, 2012
Valentines and Relationship OCD
4:41 pm est
This Valentines Day, longing hearts everywhere will eagerly anticipate a romantic gift or gesture from
their partner. For millions, however, Valentines is the worst day, despite good relationships, leaving them confused and conflicted,
guilty or mistrustful, due to "Relationship OCD" or "ROCD."
ROCD is a form of OCD in which
the sufferer has irrational doubts of their partner's love, and goes to extreme lengths to compulsively check up on them.
They constantly call them, or inspect their call or email history. Valentines is one of many tests of their partner's love.
They analyze their words, tone of voice, and facial expressions. They ask for reassurance. They drive themselves crazy, unable
to think of anything else, and eventually cause the relationship to dissolve, perhaps, ironically, this very Valentines Day.