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Friday, December 15, 2017

The Secret: People are attracted to the familiar

People are creatures of habit.  We are naturally attracted to the familiar. It's safe.  It's comfortable.  By contrast, people get a queasy feeling with the mysterious, the unknown.  The familiar is so powerful that it doesn't matter whether something is good or bad, people are attracted to it.  The expression, "better the devil I know than the devil I don't know," sums it up in a nutshell.  How often do we hear about people staying in abusive relationships?  Because that's what they grew up with or saw; it's familiar, it's predictable, you know what to expect.  How often do some people distrust and push away a giving caring person.  It's a staple of psychotherapy.  Because it's not what they are used to, it's unfamiliar, confusing.  The secret to why people will be comfortable with you and attracted to you versus someone else is the simple fact that they know you.  Nothing more, nothing less.  It doesn't matter whether they like or dislike what they know about you, they will still feel comfortable, safe, and bond with you.

So, what should you do to put this principle into practice?

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