Friday, May 10, 2019
So what do you do for people to like being with you? It's simple.
As I mentioned in plrior posts there's nothing special you have to do or trait you need for others to feel comfortable spending
time with you. People don't require you to be intellligent, humorous, interesting, physically attractive, share similar
interests or backgrounds. All of those traits could even backfire, make others uncomforable and push them away. You
don't even have to be friendly, kind, or a good listerner! Even those could turn some people off. People are already
hard wired to want to be with people. All you have to do is MAKE them familiar with you. In other words, they'll be
comfortable just because they know you.What should you do to accomoplish this? Simply disclose little bits of information
about yourself. It doesn't have to be sensitive personal infomation. It doesn't have to be interesting. It could
what kind of day you're having, how you spent your weekend, your hobbies, something about your family, where you grew up,
a movie you saw, even the weather and whether you're hungry or tired. Literally just talk. There is literally
nothing you can say wrong (other than abuse, which many people unfortunately feel more comfortable with if that's familiar
to them). Remember, if you don't open up and disclose, then you're turning yourself into a "mystery", "the
unfamiliar" to people, which makes them uncomfortable, queasy, you could say a little afraid. As you disclose small
snippets, you'll see how easily other people open up to you. That's all there is. A bond is formed.
1:26 pm edt