Many people have irrational OCD doubts about their sexual orientation.
They know rationally they are heterosexual but abruptly develop thoughts that they are gay. Despite them being accepting
of gay friends and relatives, so called HOCD attacks a person's identity. They test their arousal in same-sex or reverse-gender
situations, repeatedly break up good relationships and make up weekly, and confuse their libido so much their fear of same-sex
attraction becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Their reactions are not homophobic. Indeed, underlying issues have nothing
to do with sex. Some fear they will never have a close relationship missing in childhood. Others make comparisons to same-sex
peers. Still others are scarred by an abusive childhood in which "gay" or reverse gender labels was a taunt.
Therapists who are not OCD experts often
make it worse by trying to convince such clients that they are gay,
while others try to prove clients are not. Read this article about HOCD. Feel free to email a question to Dr. Brodsky for a free consultation within 24 hours.
Or make an appointment online now or by calling 212-726-2390.
"Straight Men Who Suspect They're Gay"
by Susan Donaldson James, 2/24/14